I keep googling 'why I'm not a good blogger' to see if anyone else feels the same as I do, but the only blogs that come up are ones like 'seven reasons why you're not a good blogger' that goes on to list a bunch of reasons you're terrible because you're not working hard enough, which just makes me feel worse. I've started to feel the pressure building that I'm never going to make it as a successful blogger, but I've come to the conclusion that I'm just not like other bloggers.
Here's the funny thing though, I am totally OK with that.
I've been 'blogging' for around 3 years now and I've gone through periods where blogging was my world, but not in a good way. It was stressful and I put so much pressure on myself to live up to the standards of others, and when that didn't happen, I'd feel like I had failed. I got to the stage where I was blogging for the sake of keeping up with algorithms and strategies, rather than focusing on the quality of my content, and more importantly if I was happy with what I had produced. Often I wasn't and I felt ashamed that this was the work I was sharing with anyone who was going to read it.
Blogging is meant to be fun and different for everyone.
I will just say quickly, I love blogging (I really do) and helping people to shop more cruelty-free and vegan because I know so many people appreciate the advice during their transitions. It's so incredibly important to me, but sometimes life does just get in the way, but I hope you guys know that I will continue to blog when I can with my full commitment and passion to give you guys honest, helpful and fun content.
So, if you want see the reasons why I'm not like other bloggers, but I am perfectly OK with it, then here you go:
1) I DO NOT HAVE THE TIME.
It took me a while to understand that those super successful YouTubers, bloggers or Instagramers' that post content 3 times a day, every single day, have the time to do that because that is their FULL TIME JOB. Credit where credit is due to people who can keep up with blogging while also having a full time job, you're bloomin' incredible, and so are those who blog full time. Sadly, I have a full time job that is not blogging or in the city that I live in, meaning the ever stressful and time consuming commute gets in my way. I have to get up every weekday at 6am, travel to work, work a 9-5 shift, travel home and walk through the door around 7pm. So I bet you're thinking maybe I can squeeze some blogging in or just snap an Instagram photo or two after work? Nope. I'm tired. I have house work to do. Dinner to cook. It's winter and gets dark early, so no natural lighting. Or maybe I just want to destress by watching TV, reading or meeting friends for a cheeky 2-4-1 cocktail. It does suck that I can't allocate any time during the week to blogging because I want to keep up with my content, but sometimes I just can't.
Weekends. Weekends are when I focus on my Instagram content and blogging, even then I have 101 things to also do on top of that so it doesn't always happen, but I think the great thing about not having time is the content you do eventually produce is real and truthful and relatable. It's not 'perfect' and I think thats great because its making social media a more open and honest place to be yourself and post work you're proud of.
2) I DO NOT HAVE MONEY.
I'm 23. I went to university for 4 years. I live over 100 miles away from any sort of family. I have a flat and travel to pay for. I'm saving for a house. I can't afford to get the latest £60 eyeshadow palette or that £40 face mask that's meant to give the me skin of a Greek Goddess for the next 5 months. I just can't afford to keep up with the latest makeup trends or quickest reviews (and believe me, I tried and it was a dumb financial decision. Do not do it). I'm all for 'spend money to make money' and 'treat yourself' and yes, sometimes it does work, but sometimes you have to reassess and see what is worth actually spending money on. When you see those Instagrammers and YouTubers who have all the latest makeup and skincare, please remember (even if some of them don't obey by the rules or make it clear) 99% of the time they have been GIFTED or PAID to advertise them, so they got them for FREE.
BUT, the great thing about not having money and buying products constantly is that you know you're going to get long-term honest reviews about products. First impressions mean nothing with beauty or makeup products, it's more important how long they're going to last in the long run (like, is my foundation going to separate in a months time? is using this toner going to make my skin worse in 3 weeks? why is my mascara drying out after a week of using it?) ... you know?
3) LIFE GETS IN THE WAY
Don't get me wrong, I love writing, sharing honest reviews, hints, tips, tricks, information, news, etc with anyone who is willing to read it. Cruelty-free and vegan beauty products, and a future with ZERO animal testing is one of THE most important things in my life, but the act of blogging itself, including Instagram, can get pushed aside when life gets in the way, but I don't always think this is a bad thing.This is mainly because at one point in my life it was all I cared about and it did not benefit me at all. I was stressed, constantly comparing myself to everyone else, doubting myself, losing motivation and creativity because it was so forced.
Now I blog and post when I feel like I want to and when I know the content I'm posting is actually adding value, not just clogging up feeds with something you're not going to like and neither am I. It's great because I spend a lot more time actually experiencing events and days out, learning, researching and expanding my mind rather than living my life through my phone. I focus more on friends, family, boyfriend, and even myself. As well as this, when I spend time with people and we go shopping or for coffee they ask for my advice of what's cruelty-free and how do I know and because I'm physically there helping them shop I know its going to stick with them in the long run. These are more important factors to me.
4) I'M NOT A VERY SOCIAL PERSON.
I like being a quiet person. I am shy and I do have anxiety, but sometimes I just like to be quiet and this goes for on social media too.
In person, I don't always like to chat and be outgoing. I'm not being rude, I promise, I'm just happy being quiet. But, this makes it difficult for me to fit into a community and make friends with other bloggers, especially at events.
However, this has also paid off because the friends I do have in the cruelty-free and vegan community are genuine and lovely, and I know I love their content and they like mine too, which is a great feeling!
I think what I'm trying to get across with this blog post is if you're thinking about starting to blog then it doesn't have to be perfect. It should be for you and how you want to do it, which is what makes it so fun and special. If your idea of blogging is strategy, content marketing and consistency, then amazing! I'm sure you're going to be great at it and wish you the best of luck! But for me, I like not being a great blogger because it suits me and my life style, and actually benefits my content a lot more. There's a lot less pressure to be 'the best' and so much more freedom for having your own spin on your content.
Until next time,
- Ellie x